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Where are all of my #BachelorNation people at!?

If you do not or have never watched this series please still continue to read!

If you have not ever watched The Bachelor/Bachelorette, you missed out this season and here is why.

I am not going to lie, I was not super excited to watch this season, but Alabama Hannah SHOWED UP multiple times and I am very impressed with her strength. This season hit on a lot of key issues that happen in dating and relationships and I think it is important to address them.

1. Meeting someone new and learning about them is the scariest/most fun part about starting a new relationship. I know for me, when meeting new people, my first instinct is to have my guard up and be skeptical. Why? Because you are just meeting them for the first time. You know nothing about them. And how much are they telling you that is actually true? That is the worst part about the show. The Bachelorette/Bachelor only gets brief moments with the other contestants so of course the contestants are going to share only the best things about them. They have no access to their phones to "creep" on them before hand to find out if what they are saying is true and matches up. Hannah was blind sided multiple times by men and there was nothing she could do about it because she was only being a trusting human.

2. You can't help who you love or have feelings for. That is only natural. Hannah had multiple moments like this. AKA LUKE P and JED.

We all know Luke P stayed around for way too long, but Hannah was truly always trying to see and find the best in him and he would only say what he wanted her to hear. He was a manipulative, controlling, toxic individual. If you think about this, we have all been fooled by someone like this, whether that is a friend or a partner. Of course they do not show these traits right away, so when getting to know this person you have no idea! That's how controlling people are. Hannah went through that relationship, just like most of us have or potentially in one now. When she finally realized that all of the other rumors were true, she showed how strong she was MULTIPLE times to him to finally say GET OUT.

Jed: Another example of being told all of the right things in moments and then having a completely different life. Hannah handled this situation so well. When she called him out on the rumors and made him speak, I felt so terrible for her. When she gave him time to defend himself, he was still trying to phrase things that he did nothing wrong and phrasing things so that it would make her happy. I am so glad she took the ring off and ended things. Hannah was right when saying, how can you start a life with someone if you can't even trust them? Think about that period. How can you let yourself be in a relationship where you can't trust them ? How can you let yourself be fed lies to only make you happy, but their actions still aren't changing?.....We have all been there! And once again, Hannah realized that even though her heart was destroyed, it isn't fair!

3. There are good men out there! Tyler C. and Peter, everyone's favorites for multiple reasons. They were charming, attractive, caring and most of all SO SUPPORTIVE. They were always the first to encourage Hannah and empower her throughout the entire journey. They were also always so understanding, even about the things that they could not control. It shows that throughout life we let some good ones go, but it also shows ladies that there are good men out there! Find your Peter or Tyler C. You know what you deserve!

4. It is almost 2020 people. Women are showing up! Hannah showed time and time again how strong and independent she was and women are. She also made it evident multiple times that women are not sitting back, looking pretty and being kept silent. Women are now speaking up about important issues, relationships, physical intimacy, something that a "lady" should never do in society. I mean, she had no problem coming clean about the windmill and there should be nothing wrong with that!!

My Motivation for this Monday is for you to evaluate the relationships that you have had or are currently in with your friends or significant other.

Take time to look back and if you have ever been in situations like Hannah went through, and you came out on top, you deserve to treat yourself and I hope you realize how strong you are! Hannah's entire season, I feel that anyone can relate to a lot of the experiences that she went through. She inspired me to "stay in my line" and not put up with any nonsense. She came out stronger and having more self-love for herself, everyone deserves that too!

Have a great week!

~Em

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