let it go

Okay, for real, if you do not know the song, "Let It Go", I will be shocked. If you have never sang the song at the top of your lungs, I will also be shocked. We all know Elsa. Any child that you know, most likely knows Elsa. Thanks to Disney, you may wish your child never heard the song. But on a serious note, I want to thank Elsa for reminding us to let it go. Now if you would have told me this about a year ago I would have literally laughed in your face and go on to tell you how impossible that is!

People pleasers....where ya at!? I know you are out there!

Are you the type of person that worries about what others are going to think of you? I am going to quote my favorite motivational lady, Rachel Hollis. "Someone else's opinion of you is none of your business"....Read that out loud at least 3 more times. Hear yourself say it out loud. Say it to yourself in the mirror. Write it down on your calendar for the month. Go to the good ole Google and type the quote in and save the quote on your phone so you can see it multiple times a day..better yet, set it as your lockscreen. I know when I read this sentence last fall, it completely changed my life and my mindset. And when reading it, I wanted to cue my inner Elsa in right behind it!

*With all of this being said, we all know that everyone is going to have an opinion on everything. Everyone does deserve to be heard BUT that does not mean that you need to cave just because your friend/loved one gave you their opinion on something that is different.*

"Someone else's opinion of you is none of your business"-R.H. Here it is again in case you didn't read it out loud again at least 3 more times ;) and this is my motivation for your Monday. We only have one life to live. Sometimes it is taken away from people way too soon. Truly, you deserve to live YOUR OWN life the way you want, with everything you have. You deserve to take the risks you want to take and to chase your dreams. YOU ARE IN CHARGE. Live the life you want to live. Do what it takes to make YOU happy. If you are constantly worried about what others may think, you are not taking advantage of all the opportunities out there. You aren't doing what you want to do to make you happy. You are spending your life pleasing others and that is not what you deserve!

Example#1: I wanted to start a blog. I didn't know if people would want to listen to my opinion on things. What I did know is that if I could help motivate even one person, it would be worth it to me and I did not care about what anyone else had to think about it!

Example #2: Social media. I am saying this because I see younger girls not posting something, re-taking pictures multiple times, making sure they are on their good side etc. Why? Because they are worried about someone else's opinion. Some people see social media as a way to only show people's good/perfect part of their lives. I see it as an outlet to get a glimpse into your own personal life. If you take a picture of me showing off my triple chin, I don't even care. That's me in the moment. I am not going to be hurt if you post it. For example, if you follow me on Twitter, check out the pictures when I caught my sharks while in Florida! 6 chins or not, it is a true representation of who I am.

Once you develop living your life for yourself and not letting what others have to say or think of you, it is great! People will notice and ask, "do you not care?", "how does that not bother you?". Let them know you do care, but ask if that is their opinion based on their life and not walking in your shoes. Share the Rachel Hollis quote with them.

I, as many, help others for a living. From the hours of 8:00-4:30, I am constantly putting my clients needs before my own. I will always do whatever it takes to help friends or family out when needed as well. I do not consider myself a selfish person, but I take my personal life and my happiness seriously, and I think you should too!

This Monday, stop living your life to please others, live it for yourself. Do more of what makes you happy. Do not let the fear of someone else's opinion eat at you. Cue in your inner Elsa and let it go, opinions don't bother you anyway!...)I hope you kinda sing this part with a little smirk like Elsa).

Happy Monday! Make this week a great one!

~Em